Advice from Maulana Maseehullah Khan Saaheb (raheemAllah)
Overlooking the Shortcomings of the Wife
Hazratjee Maulana Maseehullah Khan Saaheb (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) said:
“Most women are very good by nature. But, after all, a woman is a woman. They must say something. On such occasions I forgive her immediately. I do not ever say anything negative to her, even if the food is late or if it is not cooked on time. If she added too much chillies in the food, then too I do not say anything. This is how I look after my wife. I cannot ever remember telling her that she must cook something special for me. If, perchance, she said something incorrect or inappropriate, I do not worry about it in the least. I let her say whatever she wants. These four walls are her territory and she may say whatever she wants here.
What sacrifices she has made. She left the lap of her mother, the shoulders of her father. She left the home in which she grew up and came to live in a strange place. This is indeed a great favour from her as well as her parents. When she left her parent’s home to come to live with you, she cried and left. O Man! Think for a while. Had Allah Ta‘ala made you a woman, then only would you have understood. Why then do you not have mercy on this poor woman? If, in the confines of these four walls, she does not express her rule over you then over who will she express herself? Please, whatever she says to you, listen to her.”
(Hazrat Maulana Maseehullah Khan Saaheb [rahmatullahi ‘alaih] – A Brief Biography, pg. 210)
Hazrat Maseehullah Sahab was born in 1329 or 1330 A.H. at Barlah, District Aligarh, India. He was from early childhood the repository of piety and sterling qualities. His virtue, excellence of character, simplicity and dignity were acknowledged by all who came into contact with him even during his childhood. A considerable part of his time during childhood was spent in Zikr and supererogatory acts of Ibaadat. A favorite occupation of Hazrat Maseehullah Sahab during his early youth was to sit in the company of the Saaliheen and Auliya. In this regard the companionship of Hazrat Maulana Mohammad Ilyaas (R.A.), the Khalifa of Hazrat Shaikhul Hind (R.A.) is noteworthy. It was this companionship during childhood days which introduced Hakeemul Ummat Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (R.A.) to Hazrat Maseehullah Sahab. Sitting in the company of Hazrat Mohammad Ilyaas (R.A.). the young Maseehullah, heard with eagerness the incidents, talks and advices of Hakeemul Ummat (R.A.). Studying the works of Hazrat Thanwi (R.A.) at the hands of Hazrat Maulana Mohammad Ilyaas (R.A.) engendered in Hazrat Maseehullah Sahab a yearning, faith and love for Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (R.A.) An outstanding feature of Hazrat Maseehullah’s character is the dominant qualities of hayaa’ (modesty) and tenderness. Hazrat Alabama Mufti A’zam Saeed Ahmad Lucknowi (R.A.), Ustadh (Teacher) of Hazrat Maseehullah. Who witnessed the life of Hazrat Maseehullah from early childhood observed:
“From childhood he (Hazrat Maseehullah Sahab has been the repository of modesty, dignity, respect, forbearance, ingenuity, intelligence and commendable attributes (`ausaffe hameedah).”
Hazrat Mufti Saeed Ahmad Lucknowi (R.A.) – a great Faqeeh and Muhaddith – who had attained perfection in many branches of learning; despite being the Ustadh of Hazrat Maseehullah Sahab, turned towards him (Hazrat Maseehullah) for spiritual’ guidance after the demise of Hakeemul Ummat Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (R.A.), who had bestowed even the mantle of Khilafat (spiritual mentorship) upon Hazrat Mufti Sahab.