Nikah is a great bounty from Allah Ta'ala. The affairs of this world and
the hereafter are put in order through marriage. There is a lot of wisdom and
many benefits in marriage. A person saves himself from sinning and his heart is
put at ease. He does not have any evil intentions and his thoughts do not begin
to wander and stray. The greatest virtue is that there are only benefits and
only rewards in this. This is because a husband and wife’s sitting together
and engaging in a loving conversation, joking with each other, etc. is better
than nafl salat.
A marriage can be executed by just two words, e.g. a person says the following
words in the presence of witnesses: "I give my daughter to you in
marriage." The person who is addressed replies: "I accept her
in marriage." In so doing, the marriage is valid and both of them are
lawful husband and wife. However, if the person has several daughters, the nikah
will not be executed by his uttering the words mentioned above. He will have to
mention the daughter by name, e.g. he says : "I give my daughter,
Qudsiyyah, to you in marriage", and the person replies : "I
accept her in marriage."
A person says: "Give so-and-so daughter of yours to me in
marriage." The father replies: "I give her to you in
marriage." In so saying, the nikah will be valid irrespective of
whether he says that he accepts or not. (In other words, it is not necessary for
the word "accept" to be mentioned).
If the daughter is present and the father says: "I give this
daughter of mine in marriage to you", and the person replies: "I
accept her", the nikah will be valid. It will not be necessary to
mention her name.
the girl is not present, it is necessary to mention her name and the name of her
father in such a loud tone that all the witnesses are able to hear. If the
people do not know the father and there is a strong possibility that by
mentioning his name they will still not know whose nikah is being
performed, then it will be necessary to mention the name of the grand-father as
well. In other words, such identification is necessary whereby those present
immediately know whose nikah is being performed.
In order for a nikah to be valid, it is also essential for at least two
males or one male and two females to be present, to hear the nikah being
performed, and to hear the two words (i.e. the offer and the acceptance) being
uttered. Only then will the nikah be valid. If two persons sit together
in privacy and one says to the other : "I give my daughter to you in
marriage" and the other person replies : "I accept your
daughter", the nikah will not be valid. Similarly, if the nikah
was performed in the presence of one person only, even then the nikah
will not be valid.
If there are no males present, but only females, the nikah will not be
valid even if there are ten females present. Together with two females, one male
has to be present.
If there are two males but they are not Muslims, the nikah will not be
valid. Similarly, if both are Muslims but both or one of them is immature, the nikah
will not be valid. Similarly, if there is one male and two females but both or
one of the females is immature, the nikah will not be valid.
It is preferable to perform the nikah in a large gathering such as after
the jumu'ah salat in a jumu'ah musjid or in any other large
gathering. This is so that the nikah will be well announced and the
people will become aware of the nikah. A nikah should not be
performed in secret and privacy. However, if due to some reason many persons are
unable to attend, then at least two males or one male and two females who hear
the nikah being performed in their very presence should be present.
If both the man and woman are mature, they can perform their own nikah.
All that they have to do is say the following in the presence of two witnesses:
One of them must say: "I am making my nikah with
you" and the other must say : "I accept." In so doing, the
nikah will be valid.
If a person does not make his nikah himself, but asks someone to perform
his nikah with someone, or, he mentions the name of the person with whom
he wishes his nikah to be performed and this person performs this nikah
in the presence of two witnesses - the nikah will be valid. Even if this
person rejects or denies this later, the nikah will still be intact.
Marriage with one's children, grand-children, great grand-children, etc. is not
permissible. Nor is marriage with one's parents, grand-parents, maternal
grand-parents, etc. permissible.
Marriage with one's brothers, uncles and nephews is not permissible. According
to the Shari‘ah, a brother is one whose mother and father is the same,
or they have one father but two mothers, or one mother but two fathers. They are
all brothers. But if the father is different, and the mother is also different;
that person will not be a brother. Nikah with him will be valid.
Marriage with one's son-in-law is not permissible. This is irrespective of
whether the daughter is already living with him or not. In all cases, nikah
with him is haram.
A girl's father passed away. Her mother married another person. However, before
the mother could even live with her new husband, she passed away or he divorced
her. In such a case, the girl can marry this step-father of hers. However, if
the mother lived with him, it will not be permissible for this girl to marry
Nikah with one's step-children is not valid. In other words, if a man has
several wives, then one of the wives cannot marry the children of the co-wives.
This is irrespective of whether she had lived with her husband or not. Nikah
with these children is prohibited under all circumstances.
It is not permissible for a woman to marry her father-in-law or even the father
or grand-father of her father-in-law.
As long as a sister is married to her husband, it is not permissible for another
sister to marry this brother-in-law of hers. However, if her sister passes away
or he divorces her and she completes her iddah, it will be permissible
for the other sister to marry her brother-in-law. In the case where the
brother-in-law divorces the first sister, it is not permissible for the second
sister to marry her brother-in-law until her sister completes her iddah.
If two sisters marry one person, the marriage of the sister whose nikah
was performed first will be valid while the marriage of the sister whose nikah
was performed later will not be valid.
A man married a woman. As long as he remains married to her, he cannot marry her
maternal and paternal aunts and nieces.
If the relationship between two women is such that if we had to regard one of
them as a man, their nikah will not be valid, then such two women cannot
marry a person at the same time. When one of them passes away or one of them is
divorced and completes her iddah, only then will it be permissible for
the person to marry the other woman.
If a woman and her step-daughter marry a person at the same time, the nikah
will be valid.
Adoption is not considered in the Shar i ‘ah. By adopting a boy, he
does not become one's son. It is therefore permissible to marry one's adopted
If a man is not one's real uncle but he becomes an uncle through some other
distant relationship, marrying him is permissible. Similarly, if a man happens
to be one's paternal uncle or nephew through some distant relationship, nikah
with him is permissible. Nikah with one's cousins is also valid
irrespective of whether they are paternal or maternal cousins.
Two women who are not blood sisters but are maternal or paternal cousins are
permitted to marry one man at the same time. In the presence of such a cousin,
another cousin can also marry the same man. The same rule applies to a very
distant maternal or paternal aunt. That is, the niece and this distant maternal
or paternal aunt can marry the same man at one time.
All the relations, which become haram on account of lineage also
become haram on account of breast-feeding. In other words, if a
girl is breast-fed by a particular woman, then this girl cannot marry the
latter's husband because he will now be regarded as her father. A girl who has
been breast-fed by a particular woman cannot marry a boy who has been breast-fed
by the same woman. Nor can this girl marry the children of this woman because
she is also regarded as a child of this woman. All the maternal and paternal
uncles and maternal and paternal nephews who become related due to this
breast-feeding also become haram on this girl.
If two girls have been breast-fed by one woman, they cannot marry the same man
at one time. In other words, whatever has been explained previously, will also
apply to relations based on breast-feeding.
A man committed adultery with a certain woman. Now it will not be permissible
for her mother or her children to marry this man.
Due to the passions of youth, a woman touched a man with evil intentions. It
will now not be permissible for her mother or her children to marry this man.
Similarly, if a man touches a woman with evil intentions, her mother and her
children will be haram on him.
In the middle of the night, a man decided to awaken his wife. However, he
mistakenly touched his daughter or his mother-in-law. Thinking them to be his
wife, he touched them with the passions of youth. Now, this man will become haram
on his wife forever. There is no way in which she can become permissible for
him. It will be necessary for him to divorce his wife.
If a boy touches his step-mother with an evil intention, she will become haram
on her husband. There is no way in which she can be halal for him.
If the step-mother touches her step-son with an evil intention, the same rule
A Muslim woman cannot marry a man who belongs to any other religion. She can
only marry a Muslim man.
A woman's husband divorced her or he passed away. As long as she does not
complete her iddah, she cannot marry anyone else.
Once a woman marries a man, she cannot marry another person unless and until she
is divorced by this person and also completes her iddah.
If a woman is not married and she falls pregnant due to adultery, it will be
permissible to marry her. However, it will not be permissible to have
intercourse with her until she delivers the child. But if the woman marries the
same person who had committed adultery with her, it will be permissible for the
person to have intercourse with her.
If a person has four wives, he cannot marry a fifth woman. If he happens to
divorce one of his four wives, another woman cannot marry him until the one who
is divorced completes her iddah.
The marriage of a Sunni girl with a Shi'ah man is not permissible
according to the majority of the ulama.
person who has the power or choice of getting a boy or girl married is called a wali.
The first wali of a boy or girl is their father. If the father is not
present, the grand-father becomes their wali. If he is not present, then
the great grand-father. If none of them are present, the blood-brother becomes
their wali. If he is not present, then the step-brother, i.e. brothers
from one father. Thereafter, the nephew, thereafter the nephew's son; and
thereafter, the nephew's grand-son. If none of them are present, the blood uncle
becomes their wali. If he is not present, then the step-uncle, i.e. the
step-brother of their father. Thereafter, the son of the blood uncle and
thereafter his grand-son. Thereafter, the son of the step-uncle and thereafter
his grand-son. If none of them are present, the father's uncle becomes their wali;
and thereafter his children. If the father's uncle, his children and
grand-children are not present; then the grand-father's uncle becomes their wali.
Thereafter, his children, grand-children, and great grand-children.
none of them are present, the mother will be their wali. Thereafter, the
paternal grand-mother, then the maternal grand-mother and then the maternal
grand-father. Thereafter, the blood-sister and then the step-sister, i.e.
sisters from one father. Thereafter, the step-brother and then the step-sister
who is from one mother. Thereafter, the paternal aunt, then the maternal uncle,
and then the maternal aunt.
An immature person cannot become a wali of anyone. A kafir cannot
be a wali for any Muslim, nor can a lunatic be a wali for anyone.
A mature girl has the choice to marry or not to marry. She can marry whomsoever
she wishes - no one can force her to marry a particular person. If she marries a
person on her own, the nikah will be valid irrespective of whether the wali
is informed or not, and irrespective of whether the wali gives his
consent or not. In all cases the nikah will be valid. However, if she
does not marry a person who is of the same social standing as her, and instead,
marries a person who is of a lower standing than her family, and her wali
is not happy about this marriage, then the fatwa in this case is that the
nikah will not be valid.
she marries a person who is in the same social standing as her, but the mahr
that she receives is less then what is normally fixed in her paternal
grandfather’s family, then although the nikah will be valid, the wali
will have the right to annul this marriage. The mahr that is normally
fixed in her paternal grandfather’s family is known as mahrul mithl.
The wali can go to a Muslim court and have such a marriage annulled.
However, it should be borne in mind that this right of annulment is only
possessed by all those walis whom we had mentioned before the mother. In
other words, from the father onwards till the children of the grand-father's
A wali performed the nikah of a mature girl without asking her or
without seeking her consent. The validity of such a nikah will be
dependent on her permission and consent. If she grants her permission, the nikah
will be valid. If she does not grant her permission or is not happy, the nikah
will not be valid. The method of granting permission is mentioned in the next mas'ala.
The wali came and informed a young virgin girl that he intends performing
her nikah with a certain person, or that he has already performed her nikah
with a certain person. Upon hearing this, she remained silent, began smiling or
began to cry. All these responses of her's will be considered to be a permission
and a consent. Now, if the wali performs her nikah, it will be
valid. If he has already performed it, it will also be valid. It is not a
prerequisite for her to give a verbal permission. Those who force a girl in
giving a verbal permission are in error.
At the time of seeking her permission, the wali did not mention the name
of her future husband, nor did she have any prior knowledge of him. In such a
case, her silence will not be considered to be a form of consent, nor will it be
considered to be a form of granting permission. It is necessary to mention the
boy's name or some other form of identification whereby the girl can understand
that the wali is referring to a particular person. Similarly, if the wali
performed the nikah without mentioning the amount of mahr to her
and it was far less than the mahrul mithl, the nikah will not be
valid without her permission. He will have to seek her permission again.
The girl is not a virgin, and instead had married previously and this is her
second marriage. When the wali asks her or seeks her permission for this
second marriage, her mere silence will not be considered to be a form of
granting permission. Instead, she will have to give a verbal reply. If she does
not give a verbal reply and remains silent, and despite this, the wali
performs her nikah, then her nikah will be in abeyance. Later, if
she gives a verbal permission, the nikah will be valid. If not, it will
not be valid.
Despite the father being present, the uncle, brother or any other wali
sought the permission of a virgin girl. If she remains silent, it will not be
considered to be a form of granting permission. Only when she gives a verbal
permission will it be considered. However, if the father sent these persons to
seek her permission, her silence will be considered to be a form of consent. In
short, the wali who is given the first preference in the Shari‘ah
and who has the most right to seek permission from the girl - when he asks her
or when someone who has been sent by him asks her, then only will her silence be
considered to be a form of consent. If the grand-father had the right of asking
her, and instead the brother asked her; or if the brother had the right of
asking her and instead she was asked by her uncle, then in such a case her
silence will not be considered to be a consent.
A wali performed the nikah of a girl without asking her and
without obtaining her consent. After the nikah, the wali or his
messenger came and informed the girl that her nikah with a particular
person has been performed. In such a case, if she remains silent, this will be a
permission on her part and the nikah will be valid. But if someone else
comes and informs her, and this person is a pious, reliable person, or two
persons come and inform her, then by her remaining silent the nikah will
be valid. But if there is only one person who informs her and he is an
unreliable person, then by her remaining silent the nikah will not be
valid. Instead, it will be held in abeyance. When she gives a verbal reply or
any other form of granting permission is found, then only will the nikah
Upon being informed of her nikah, the girl did not give a verbal reply
although it was necessary for her to give a verbal reply. However, when her
husband approached her she did not refuse him from engaging in sexual
intercourse with her. Even in this case, the nikah will be valid.
The same rules apply to a mature boy, i.e. he cannot be forced into a marriage
nor can the wali perform his nikah without his permission. If his nikah
is performed without his permission, it's validity will be dependent on his
permission. If he expresses his consent, his nikah will be valid. If not,
it will not be valid. However, it should be borne in mind that the boy's silence
is not considered to be a form of granting permission. He will have to give a
If a boy or a girl is immature, they do not have their own choice. Their nikah
is not valid without a wali. If a boy (or girl) performs his nikah
on his own or someone else performs it, it will be dependent on the permission
of the wali. If the wali grants permission, the nikah will
be valid. If not, it will not be valid. The wali has full rights over
such a boy or girl. He can get them married to whoever he wishes and refuse
whoever he wishes. Immature girls and immature boys cannot reject such a nikah
at that time. This is irrespective of whether the girl is a virgin or had been
married previously and had also been sent to her (first) husband's home - the
same rule will apply.
If the father or grand-father perform the nikah of an immature girl or
boy, they do not have the right to reject or repudiate this nikah even
after they become mature. This is irrespective of whether the marriage was
executed with a person who is of the same social standing or with a person of a
lower class, and irrespective of whether the nikah was performed with mahrul
mithl or whether it was far less than the mahrul mithl. In all cases
the nikah will be valid and they cannot reject or repudiate this nikah.
If a wali other than the father or grand-father performed the nikah,
and it was performed with a boy of the same social standing and the mahrul
mithl was also given, then in such a case the nikah will be valid.
However, after reaching the age of maturity, she has the right to endorse this nikah
or to go and complain to a Muslim judge and have this marriage annulled.
if the wali performed her marriage with a person of a lower social
standing or accepted a mahr which was far less than the mahrul mithl,
the nikah will not be valid from the very outset. Similarly, if the wali
performed the nikah of a boy with a mahr which was far more than
the mahrul mithl of the girl, the nikah will not be valid from the
A wali other than the father or grand-father had performed the nikah
of an immature girl who also had knowledge of this nikah. Thereafter, she
became mature and until then her husband hadn't had any sexual intercourse with
her. In such a case, the moment she becomes mature, she must mention her
discontent with regard to marrying this person. She must clearly state that she
is not happy. Alternatively, she could say that she does not wish to continue
with this marriage. This could be said in the presence of others or in privacy
where she is all alone. But she has to mention it verbally. However, by her
merely saying this, the nikah will not be annulled. She will have to go
to a Muslim judge, he will annul the marriage, and only then will it be
she becomes mature and allows even a moment to pass in which she does not
mention her discontent, she will not have the choice of having her nikah
if the girl did not have any knowledge of this nikah and only learnt of
it after becoming mature, then the moment she is informed, she will immediately
have the right to reject the nikah. If she remains silent for even a
moment, she will forfeit this right to reject the nikah.
If her husband engaged in sexual intercourse with her, and thereafter she
becomes mature, it is not necessary for her to reject the nikah
immediately after becoming mature or after being informed. Instead, as long as
she does not express her consent and happiness, she will have the choice of
rejecting or accepting irrespective of how much time lapses. However, if she
clearly states that she is happy about this marriage, or her consent is made
apparent in some other way such as being in solitude with her husband like any
other normal husband and wife, then she will have no choice and this nikah
will become entrenched.
The person who is most entitled of being the wali of an immature girl is
gone to a foreign country. He is so far away that if the rest of the family had
to await his arrival in order to consult him, the girl will lose this
opportunity. Furthermore, the person who has come with the proposal is not
prepared to wait for so long and it will be difficult for the girl to receive a
similar proposal. In such a case, the person who is next in line to become her wali
can also perform her nikah. If he performs the nikah without
consulting the girl, it will be valid. But if the first wali is not very
far away, her nikah should not be performed without consulting him. If it
is performed, it will be dependent on his permission. Once he grants his
permission, the nikah will be valid.
Similarly, if the second wali performs the nikah of an immature
girl despite the most rightful wali being present, it will be dependent
on his permission. For example, if the grand-father performs the nikah
without consulting the father despite the latter being present, it will be
dependent on the father's permission. If the right belonged to the brother but
the nikah was performed by the uncle, it will be dependent on the
A woman became a lunatic and lost her sanity. She has a mature son and a father
as well. If her nikah has to be performed, her wali will be her
son because the son is more entitled of being a wali than the father
(father of the woman).
The Shar i ‘ah has taken great precautions in ensuring that nikah
with an incompatible person or a person of a lower social standing does not take
place. In other words, do not perform the nikah of a girl with a man who
is not equal to her in status or who is of no match to her.
Compatibility or equality is considered in several factors: (1) lineage,
(2) Islam, (3) piety, (4) wealth, (5) profession or occupation.
Equality in Lineage
Equality in lineage is that the Shaykh, Sayyid, Ansari, and ‘Alawi
are all equal to each other. In other words, although the status of a Sayyid
is more than the others, if the daughter of a Sayyid marries a Shaykh
boy; it will not be said that she did not marry someone who is of her family
relations. Instead, it will also be regarded as if she has married one of her
In matters of lineage, the lineage of the father is considered and not the
mother. If the father is a Sayyid, the son is also a Sayyid; and
if the father is a Shaykh, the son is also a Shaykh - irrespective
of what the mother may be. If a Sayyid marries a woman who is not a Sayyid,
their son will be regarded as a Sayyid. This son will be equal in status
to all other Sayyids. Although the son whose father and mother are both
from a noble family is respected more, according to the Shariah they will
all be regarded as relatives or of the same social standing.
The Moghuls and Pathans are regarded as one nation and are not of
the same class as that of the Sayyids and Shaykhs. If the daughter
of a Sayyid or Shaykh gets married with one of them, it will be
said that she married someone who is of a lower social standing than her.
Equality in being a Muslim
Equality in being a Muslim is only considered among the Moghuls, Pathans,
and other non-Arab nations. There is no consideration of this among the Shaykhs,
Sayyids, ‘Alawis, and Ansaris. A man who accepts Islam and
his father was a kafir cannot be on par or equal to a woman who is a
Muslim and her father was also a Muslim. The man who is a Muslim, his father is
also a Muslim, but his grandfather was a kafir; cannot be equal to a
woman whose grandfather was also a Muslim.
A man whose father and grandfather were Muslims, but his great grandfather was a
kafir will be regarded as equal to a woman whose several forefathers were
Muslims. In short, this equality is only considered till the grandfather.
Equality beyond the grandfather, such as the great grandfather and beyond him is
Equality in Piety
in piety means that a man who does not follow the dictates of the Shar i
‘ah - who is a wicked person, a scoundrel, an alcoholic, a shameless
person - will not be considered to be equal to a pious, chaste and religious
Equality in Wealth
in wealth means that a person who is an absolute pauper cannot be compatible to
a rich woman. If the man is not an absolute pauper, but is capable of giving
that amount of mahr that is normally given on the first night and is also
capable of giving her maintenance, then he will be regarded to be equal to her
in status even if he is unable to give the entire amount of mahr. It is
not necessary for the man to be in exactly the same financial position as that
of the woman. Nor is it necessary for him to be close to that financial
Equality in Occupation
Equality in occupation is that, e.g. weavers are not regarded as equal to
tailors and are accorded a status that is lower than that of tailors. Similarly,
barbers, washermen, etc. are not regarded as being equal to tailors, but are
regarded as being lower than tailors.
A mad, lunatic person cannot be equal to an intelligent, understanding woman.
Once a nikah is performed, it will be valid irrespective of whether
mention of any mahr was made or not. Despite it being valid, one will
have to give the mahr. In fact, if a person makes the condition that he
will not give any mahr and that he is marrying the woman without any mahr,
he will still have to give the mahr.
The minimum mahr is 10 dirhams and there is no limit to the
maximum amount of mahr. The woman can stipulate as much as she wishes.
However, it is not good to stipulate a very high figure. If a person gives an
amount less than 10 dirhams or its equivalent, he will have to give the
balance as well because mahr cannot be an amount less than the minimum.
If the husband divorces his wife (in this case) even before she can come and
live with him, he will have to give half of the minimum.
A person stipulated R20, R100, R1000, or any other amount according to his
financial position. The woman thereafter came and lived with him. He also had
sexual intercourse with this wife of his. Alternately, he did not have
intercourse with her, but he and his wife were able to meet in privacy where no
one or nothing stopped them or prevented them from engaging in sexual
intercourse. In both these cases, it will be wajib on the person to
fulfil the full amount of the stipulated mahr. If none of the above
transpired between them, and one of them passed away, it will still be wajib
to fulfil the entire mahr. Furthermore, if none of the above transpired
between them, and the man divorced her, it will be wajib on him to fulfil
half the stipulated mahr.
short, if the husband and wife meet in privacy, as mentioned above or one of
them passes away, the entire mahr becomes wajib. And if the
husband divorces her prior to them being in privacy and seclusion, it will be wajib
to fulfil half the stipulated mahr.
If one of them was ill, keeping a fast of Ramadan, in the ihram
of hajj, the woman was in her hayd or there
was someone who was peeping at them or intruding on their privacy, and they met
in private or seclusion in any of the above situations, then this privacy or
seclusion of their's is not considered. If they meet each other in any of the
above situations or circumstances, the total amount of mahr will not
become wajib. If the husband divorces her, it will be her right to
receive half the total mahr. However, if the fast was not a fast of Ramadan,
instead it was a qada, nadhr, or nafl fast, and this was
being kept by one of them, then in such a case if they happened to meet in
privacy and seclusion, the wife will have the right of receiving the full amount
of the mahr. It will be wajib on the husband to fulfil the full
The husband is impotent, however, both of them met in privacy and seclusion. The
wife will still receive the full mahr. Similarly, if the husband is a
hermaphrodite and they meet in privacy and seclusion and thereafter he divorces
her, she will receive the full mahr.
The husband and wife met in privacy and seclusion but the wife is so young that
she is incapable of sexual intercourse. Alternately, the husband is so young
that he is incapable of sexual intercourse. If they meet in privacy and
seclusion in such a case, the full mahr will not be wajib.
If no mention whatsoever of the mahr was made at the time of the nikah,
or the nikah was performed on the condition that the woman will not
receive any mahr, and thereafter one of them passed away or they met in
privacy - that is regarded as a valid privacy in the Shar i ‘ah - even
then the mahr will have to be fulfilled. However, in such a case, the mahrul
mithl will have to be paid.
the above case, if the husband divorced his wife prior to being in seclusion
with her, she will have no right to receive any mahr. Instead, she will
only receive a set of clothing. It is wajib on the man to give this to
the woman. He will be sinning if he does not do so.
When giving this set of clothing, only four items are wajib on the man:
a dress, a scarf, a pant, and a sheet, which can cover her body from head to
toe. Apart from these items, it is not wajib to give any other clothing.
The clothing that the man gives should be according to his financial position.
If the man is poor, he should give cotton clothing. If he is of a middle class,
he should give silk that is of an inferior quality. If he is very rich, he
should give silk clothing that is of a very high quality. However, it should be
borne in mind that in all these circumstances the clothing that is given should
not be more than half the mahrul mithl in value. At the same time, it
should not be less than five dirhams in value.
other words, it is not wajib on the man to give clothing which is very
expensive and which exceeds half the mahrul mithl in value. However, it
is permissible for him to give clothing that is more than the stipulated amount
provided that he gives it happily and out of his own will.
At the time of the nikah no mahr was stipulated. However, after
the nikah, the husband and wife agreed upon a specific amount as mahr.
In such a case, mahrul mithl will not have to be given. Instead, the
amount that they had agreed upon will have to be given. But if the husband
divorced his wife prior to their meeting in privacy and seclusion, she will not
have any right of receiving any mahr. Instead, she will only receive the
clothing that had been mentioned previously.
A person stipulated R100, R1000 or any other amount according to his financial
position. Thereafter the husband decided to give more than the original amount
that was stipulated. This he did voluntarily and out of his own good will. For
example, the stipulated mahr was R100, but he decided to give R150.
Whatever additional amount he decides to give will now become wajib upon
him. If he does not give it, he will be sinning. But if he divorces her prior to
meeting in privacy and seclusion, he will have to give half of the original
amount that was stipulated. The additional amount that he had decided to give
will not be calculated.
if the wife happily and willingly reduces the amount of mahr, it will be
considered to be reduced. If she absolves him from paying the entire amount, it
will be absolved. Now she has no right to claim it.
If the husband pressurized her into reducing the mahr or instilled some
fear into her so that she reduces the mahr, then by her reducing or
forgiving her husband, it will not be considered to be forgiven. It will still
be wajib upon him to fulfil the mahr.
No cash, gold or silver was stipulated for the mahr. Instead, a small
village, a farm or some land was stipulated. This is permissible. The farm,
land, etc. that was stipulated will have to be given.
A horse, elephant or any other animal was stipulated as mahr. However, a
specific horse or a specific elephant was not stipulated. This is also
permissible. In such a case an average horse which is not too cheap nor too
expensive will have to be given. Alternatively, it's value in cash could be
given. However, if an animal was stipulated without specifying the type of
animal, this will not be valid. Mahrul mithl will have to be given.
A couple got married in an unlawful way and the husband and wife were therefore
made to separate. For example, they got married in secret without the presence
of two witnesses. Alternately, two witnesses were present but they were deaf and
were therefore unable to hear the words that make a nikah valid.
Alternatively, a man had divorced his wife or he had passed away. Prior to
completing her iddah, the woman married another man. Or some other form
of unlawful marriage had taken place and the husband and wife were therefore
made to separate. However, in all these cases, the man did not have any sexual
intercourse with this woman. In such a case, she will not receive any mahr.
In fact, even if they met in privacy and seclusion, she will still not be
eligible to receive any mahr. But if sexual intercourse had taken place,
she will receive mahrul mithl. However, if at the time of nikah
some mahr had been stipulated and this mahr is less than the mahrul
mithl, then she will receive the mahr that had been stipulated at the
time of the nikah and not the mahrul mithl.
A person had sexual intercourse with a woman after mistaking her for his wife.
He will have to give her mahrul mithl as well, and this intercourse with
her will not be regarded as adultery (zina) nor will there be any sin. In
fact, if the woman falls pregnant, the lineage of the child will be in order. It
will not be tainted and it is not permissible to label the child as being
illegitimate. The moment the man realizes that this is not his wife, he should
immediately separate himself from her and it will not be permissible for him to
continue with the intercourse. It is also wajib on this woman to observe
the iddah. It is not permissible for her to stay with her husband or to
engage in sexual intercourse with him. The rules related to iddah will be
mentioned in a later chapter - Insha’ Allah.
If in a certain place or country, the norm is that the entire mahr must
be given on the first night, then the woman has the right to demand the mahr
on the first night. If she does not ask for it on the first night, she can ask
for it whenever she wishes and it will be wajib on the husband to give it
to her. He cannot delay in fulfilling the mahr.
The practice in India is that the paying and receiving of mahr is
undertaken after divorce or after death. When the woman is divorced, it is only
then that she claims her mahr. Alternatively, when the husband dies and
leaves behind some wealth, she takes her mahr from this left over wealth
of his. If the woman dies, her inheritors claim the mahr. As long as the
husband and wife are living together, no one pays the mahr nor does she
ask for it. In such a situation, the woman cannot demand the mahr before
divorce. However, it is wajib on the man to give an amount that is
normally given in that place on the first night. But if all these practices are
not found in any place, these rules will not apply.
If the husband does not give the amount of mahr that is normally given
beforehand, the wife has the right to refuse him to engage in sexual intercourse
with her until he pays that amount. If they engaged in intercourse once, she
still has the right of refusing him the next time or the following time if he
does not pay the mahr. If he wishes to take her to another city or
country, she has the right of not going unless her mahr is paid.
Similarly, if the mahr is not paid and the woman wishes to travel to
another city or country, or wishes to go to her parents home, and there is a mahram
who can take her, then the husband does not have the right to stop her. But once
he pays the mahr, she does not have the right to do any of these things
without her husband's permission. It is not permissible for her to go anywhere
without his consent. As for the husband, he can take her wherever he wishes. It
is not permissible for her to refuse him.
The husband gave some item (or cash, gold, silver, etc.) to his wife with the
intention that it is mahr. Whatever he gives will be regarded as part of
the mahr. It is not necessary for him to inform his wife at the time of
giving it to her that he is giving her mahr.
The man gave an item to his wife. She claims that the item was given as a gift
and not as mahr while the man claims that he gave it as mahr. In
this case, the husband's claim will be considered. However, if the item was such
that it is consumed as food or drink, it will not be considered to be mahr
and the husband's claim will not be considered.
Family mahr or mahrul mithl is determined in the following way:
look at any woman in the girl's father's family who is similar or equal to
this girl. That is, if the girl is young, the woman must also be young at the
time of marriage. If the woman is beautiful, this girl must also be beautiful.
If the woman's marriage had taken place when she was a virgin, this girl's
marriage must also take place while she is a virgin. The wealth that this girl
possesses at the time of her nikah, that woman also had possessed the
same at the time of her nikah. The place or locality from which this girl
is, that woman must also be from the same place. If this girl is
religious-minded, intelligent, well-mannered and educated, that woman must also
be the same. In short, this girl whose nikah is being performed now, must
also possess the qualities that that woman possessed at the time of her nikah,.
If they share the same qualities, then the mahr that was stipulated for
that woman will be the mahrul mithl for this girl.
Women of the girl's father's family refer to the girl's sisters, paternal aunts,
cousins (children of paternal uncles), etc. In other words, girls or women who
are connected to her paternal grandmother. When determining the mahrul mithl,
the mahr of the mother is not considered. However, if her mother is also
of the same family as that of her father's, e.g. if her father marries his
cousin (paternal uncle's daughter), then the mother's mahr will also be
regarded as mahrul mithl.
The different forms of marriage in the different religions are recognized in the
Shar i ‘ah. If both, husband and wife, accept Islam, there is no need
to repeat their nikah. The nikah that they had performed as kuffar
will still be valid.
If the husband or the wife accepts Islam and the other partner does not accept,
their nikah will be annulled. It will not be permissible for them to live
as husband and wife.
If the wife accepts Islam and not the husband, then as long as the wife does not
complete three hayd periods, it will not be permissible for
her to marry another person.
If a person has more than one wife it is wajib upon him to treat each one
equally. Whatever he gives to one wife, the other wife also has the right to
claim something equal to that in value. This rule of equality applies to all
types of wives, i.e. whether both were virgins at the time of marriage, both
were previously married or one was a virgin at the time of marriage while the
other had been previously married. If he spends one night with one wife, he will
have to spend one night with the other wife as well. If he spends two or three
nights with one wife, he will have to do the same with the other wife as well.
Whatever wealth, jewellery, clothes, etc. he gives to one wife, the other wife
also has the right to claim something equal to that in value.
If a person marries a second woman, the rights of this new wife and the rights
of the old wife are the same. There is no difference in rights between the two.
Equality is based on spending the night and it is not necessary to spend an
equal time with them during the day. If a person spends more time with one wife
during the day and less time with the other, there is no harm in this. However,
it is wajib to spend an equal time with them at night. If a person goes
to one wife immediately after maghrib, and the following day he goes to
the other wife after isha, he will be sinning. However, if a person's
occupation is such that he works at night and remains at home during the day;
for him, the basis of equality will be the day. For example, a night watchman or
guard will have to base his equality with his wives according to the day and not
There is no equality in engaging in sexual intercourse in the sense that if a
person engages in sexual intercourse with one wife, it is not necessary for him
to engage in sexual intercourse with the other wife as well.
The man has to maintain equality in allocating nights to his wives irrespective
of whether he is ill or not.
There is no sin in loving one wife more than the other because these matters are
connected to the heart and one does not have any control over one's heart.
Equality is not wajib when embarking on a journey. The husband can take
whichever wife he wishes. However, it is preferable to cast a lot and to take
the wife in whose favour the lot was drawn. In this way there will be no
unhappiness or disgruntlement.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that this world has been created to be
utilised and that of all the things that are utilised in this world, there is
nothing better than a pious woman. In other words, if a person is fortunate
enough to get a pious wife, it will be a great blessing. It is also a mercy from
Allah Ta'ala that she is actually a comfort for the husband and a means for his
success in this world and in the hereafter. A person enjoys comfort from such a
woman for his worldly needs and she also assists him in fulfilling his religious
It is mentioned in a Hadith that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said : "Marriage is my way and my sunnah."
"The one who does not act upon my sunnah is not of me." That
is, there is no relationship between him and me. This is actually a warning and
a threat to the one who does not practice on the sunnah and a mention of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam anger on such a person. It
is therefore necessary to be extremely cautious in this regard. Furthermore, how
can a Muslim bear to have Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
displeased with him for even a moment. May Allah Ta'ala grant us death before
that day comes when a Muslim is able to bear the displeasure of Allah and His
Rasul sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
is mentioned in a Hadith that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said: "Marry so that I can be proud (of your numbers) on
the day of judgement over the other nations." In other words, Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam likes his ’ummah to be in large numbers and more
than the other nations. If this happens, his ummah will be carrying out
more good deeds, and in so doing he will receive more rewards and gain closer
proximity to Allah Ta'ala. This is because whoever from his ummah does
good deeds, does so through his teachings. Therefore, the more people who act on
his teachings, the more reward he will receive for conveying those teachings. We
also learn from this that whenever and however possible, we should undertake to
carry out those tasks and actions that will take us closer to Allah Ta'ala, and
that we should not display any laziness in this regard.
is mentioned in a Hadith that on the day of judgement the people will be
standing in 120 lines. Out of these, 40 lines of people will be from the other
nations while 80 lines of people will be from the ummah of Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam. Glory be to Allah! How beloved Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam is to Him.
one who is able to (fulfil the rights of a wife) should marry. As for the one
who does not have sufficient wealth (to fulfil the rights of a wife), he should
fast. That is, he should fast so that there will be a decrease in his desires.
Fasting is actually a means of curbing his desires. If a person does not have a
very dire need for women, and instead has an average need, and he is able to pay
for her necessities, then nikah is sunnat-e-mu’akkadah for such
a person. As for the person who has a very urgent need, nikah will be fard
upon him. This is because there is a fear that he will commit adultery and
thereby get the sin of committing a haram act. If a person has a
very urgent need but is financially incapable of maintaining a wife, then such a
person must fast abundantly. Later, when he has sufficient funds to maintain a
wife, he must get married.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that children are the flowers of jannah. This
means that the amount of joy and happiness one will experience on seeing the
flowers of paradise, that same amount of joy and happiness is experienced when
he looks at his children. And we know fully well that children can only be
obtained through marriage.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that when the status of a person is increased
in jannah, he asks out of wonder: "How did I receive all
this?" (That is, "How did I receive such a high status when I hadn't
carried out so many good deeds to deserve such a status?") It will be said
to this person that this high status is on account of your children asking for
forgiveness on your behalf. In other words, your children had asked for
forgiveness on your behalf. In return for that, you have been accorded this
It is mentioned that the child who is born out of a miscarriage (i.e. it is born
before the due date) will "fight"(wrangle) with its Creator when its
parents are entered into jahannam. In other words, this child will go to
extremes in interceding on behalf of its parents and will ask Allah Ta'ala to
remove its parents from jahannam. Through His bounty, Allah Ta'ala will
accept the intercession of this child and He will be soft and lenient towards
it. It will be said to this child: "O siqt (which
means, miscarried foetus) who is quarrelling with its Lord! Enter your parents
into jannah." So this child will draw its parents out of jahannam
with its navel cord and enter both of them into jannah. We learn from
this, that children of this sort, who are actually a by-product of marriage,
will also be of help in the hereafter.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that when the husband and wife look at each other
(with love), Allah Ta'ala looks at both of them with mercy.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that Allah Ta'ala has taken it upon Himself (i.e.
out of His mercy, He as taken the responsibility) of helping the person who gets
married in order to attain purity from that which Allah has made haram.
In other words, the person who marries in order to save himself from adultery
with the intention of obeying Allah Ta'ala, Allah will help and assist him in
his expenses and other affairs.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that two rak‘ats of salat performed
by a married person is better than 82 rak‘ats performed by an unmarried
person. In another Hadith, 70 rak‘ats have been mentioned instead of 82
rak‘ats. It is possible that this means that 70 rak‘ats are written in
favour of the person who fulfils the necessary rights of his wife and family,
and that 82 rak‘ats are in favour of the person who apart from fulfilling
their necessary rights, serves them more with his life, wealth and good habits.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that it is a major sin for a person to be
neglectful with regard to those whom he is responsible for (and to have
shortcomings in fulfilling their needs).
It is mentioned in a Hadith that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said: "I have not left behind any test and tribulation
on men more harmful than women." In other words, of all the things that are
harmful for men, women are the most harmful. This is because, out of his love
for a woman, a man loses all his senses, so much so that he does not even take
the commands and orders of Allah Ta'ala into consideration. Therefore, a person
must not fall in love with a woman in such a way that he has to act contrary to
the Shari‘ah. For example, her demands for her food and clothing are
more than what the husband can afford. In such circumstances, never accept any
bribes in order to supplement your present income. Instead, give her from the halal
earnings, which Allah Ta'ala has blessed you. You should continue teaching your
womenfolk and inculcate respect and good manners in them. Do not allow them to
become impudent and disrespectful. The intellect of women is deficient; it is
therefore incumbent to take special measures in reforming them.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that you should not propose to a girl when
your fellow Muslim brother has already proposed to her until he gets married or
gives up this proposal. In other words, when a person has sent a proposal to a
particular family and there is a likelihood of their replying in the
affirmative, another person should not send a proposal to that same family.
However, if they reject this first person, or he himself changes his mind, or
they are not too happy with him and are still hesitant in giving a reply, it
will be permissible for another person to send a proposal for the same girl.
same rule applies to the transactions of buying and selling. That is, if a
person is busy buying or selling something, then as long as they do not separate
or abandon the transaction, another person should not enter into their
transaction and should not offer a price above or below that which has been
already offered when there is an indication that they are about to come to an
agreement. Understand this well, and know that a kafir is also included
in this rule.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that a woman is either married because of her Din,
her wealth or her beauty. Choose the one with Din, may your hands become
dusty. In other words, a man may prefer a woman who is religiously inclined.
While another may prefer one who is wealthy. While yet another may prefer one
who is beautiful. However, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
says that one should choose a religiously inclined woman and that it is
preferable to marry such a woman. However, if the circumstances are such that a
woman is very pious but at the same time she is so ugly that one's nature does
not find her acceptable and there is a fear that if he marries such a woman
there will be no mutual understanding between them, and that he will be
neglectful in fulfilling her rights, then in such a case he should not marry
such a woman. "May your hands become dusty" is an Arabic mode of
expression, which is used on different occasions. In this context, it is meant
to create a yearning and a desire for a pious woman.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that the best wife is one whose mahr
is very simple. That is, it is very easy for the man to fulfil her mahr.
These days, there is the habit of specifying a very high mahr. People
should abstain from this.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that you should look for a good place for
your sperms because a woman gives birth to children that resemble her brothers
and sisters. In other words, marry a woman who comes from a pious and noble
family because the children generally resemble the maternal relations. Although
the father also has some influence over the child's resemblance, we learn from
this Hadith that the mother's influence is greater. If the wife is from a
disreputable and irreligious family, the children who will be born will be
similar to that family. But if this is not so, then the children who will be
born will be pious and religious.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that the greatest right that a woman has to
fulfil is to her husband, and that the greatest right that he has to fulfil is
to his mother. In other words, after the rights of Allah and His Rasul sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam the woman has a very great right to fulfil to her husband,
so much so that the husband's rights supersede the rights of her parents. As for
the man, after the rights of Allah and His Rasul sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, the greatest right that he has to fulfil is to his mother. We learn
from this that the right of the mother supersedes that of the father.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that if anyone of you wishes to engage in
sexual intercourse with his wife, he should recite du‘a.
virtue of du‘a is that if a child is conceived through this
intercourse, shaytan will not be able to harm this child in any
There is a lengthy Hadith in which Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam addressed Abdur Rahman bin Auf radiyallahu anhu
asking him to have a walimah even if it is with one sheep. In other
words, even if you possess very little, you should spend. It is preferable to
have the walimah after engaging in sexual intercourse with one's bride.
However, many ulama have permitted it immediately after the nikah
as well. It is mustahab to have a walimah.
Explanation of Islamic Terms
Alim: One who has attained a considerable
amount of Islamic knowledge. He could also be referred to as an Islamic scholar.
Barakah: Literally means
"blessings". It refers to the experiencing of abundance in things,
which are apparently insignificant or little, both in value and amount.
Bid’ah: Literally means
"innovation". In Islam it refers to introducing new things into
religion which have no basis in the Quran or Sunnah, and in addition to this, to
regard these new things as acts of ‘ibadah. A bid'ah is a major sin in Islam.
Dua ul-maghfirah: Supplicating to Allah
Ta'ala and asking Him for His forgiveness.
I’la: Annulment of a marriage after the
husband's sworn testimony to have refrained from sexual intercourse with his
wife for a period of at least four months. For further details, refer to the
chapter on ‘i la’.
Fard: Literally means
"compulsory". In Islam it refers to those acts and things which are
compulsory on a Muslim. Abandoning or abstaining from a fard act is a major sin.
Rejecting a fard act amounts to kufr.
Fatwa: A formal legal opinion or verdict in
Ghayr mahram: Refers to all those
persons with whom marriage is permissible. Based on this, it is incumbent to
observe purdah with all ghayr mahrams.
Ghibah: Slander or backbiting.
Hayd: Monthly periods or
menstruation experienced by a woman.
Hajj: Literally means
"pilgrimage". In Islam it refers to the annual pilgrimage to Makkah.
Halal: That which is lawful or
permissible in Islam.
Haram: That which is unlawful or
prohibited in Islam.
Hur: Refers to the large-eyed women
of jannah, promised to the believers.
Ibadah: Literally means
"worship". In Islam it refers to all those acts of worship which one
renders to Allah Ta'ala.
Iddah: A period of waiting during which a
woman may not remarry after being widowed or divorced. For further details,
refer to the chapter on iddah.
Ihram: Two pieces of unstitched
cloth donned by the person performing hajj or umrah.
Jama’ah: A group, party, community.
Kafir: Literally means "a
disbeliever". In Islam it refers to one who rejects Allah and does not
believe in Muhammad sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam as the
final messenger of Allah.
Kaffarah: Literally means "penance,
atonement, expiation". In Islamic law it refers to redemption from the
omission of certain religious duties by a material donation or a ritual act. For
further details, refer to the chapter on kaffarah.
Khula: Divorce at the instance of the wife
who must pay compensation. For further details, refer to the chapter on khula.
Kuffar: Plural of kafir.
Li'an: Sworn allegation of adultery
committed by either husband or wife. For further details, refer to the chapter
Madrasah: Literally means "a
school". Also used to refer to a religious school.
Maghrib: Literally means "evening or
sunset". Also refers to the time of sunset and the salat that is offered
Mahr: Dower or bridal money.
Mahram: Refers to the person with
whom marriage is not permissible and with whom strict purdah is not incumbent.
Mahrul mithl: The dower or bridal money
that is equal to or similar than that which was given to a girl's paternal
grandmothers. For further details, refer to the chapter on mahrul mithl.
Masa'il: Plural of mas'ala.
Mas'ala: Literally means "an issue,
problem or question". In Islamic jurisprudence, it refers to a rule or
Mustahab: Literally means
"preferable or desirable". Refers to that act which was carried out by
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or the Sahabah
occasionally. Carrying out these actions entails reward and leaving them out
does not entail punishment.
Nadhr: A vow or solemn pledge.
Nifas: Refers to the flowing of blood after
Perdah: An Urdu word meaning
"seclusion". It is an equivalent of the Arabic word "hijab".
Refers to the seclusion of women from strangers. There are different stages of
purdah, the highest of which is that the woman should not come out of her home
except for a valid Islamic reason.
Qada: Literally means "carrying
out or fulfilling". In Islamic jurisprudence it refers to fulfilling or
completing those duties that one may have missed out due to some reason or the
Qadiani: A heretical sect which regards
Mirza Ghulam Ahmad Qadiani as a prophet of Allah. Qadianis are regarded as
Qiblah: The direction in which one faces
when offering salat.
Qurbani: Literally means
"sacrifice". In Islam it refers to the sacrificing of animals solely
for the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala on the day of idul-Ad'ha and the
two days following it.
Ramadan: The ninth month of the
Islamic calendar which is regarded as the most sacred month.
Salam: Literally means "peace".
Shari‘ah: The Islamic Law.
Shaytan: Satan or the devil.
Shi’ah: A heretical sect found primarily
Sunnat-e-Mu’akkadah: Refers to those
actions which Rasulullah sallallahu
‘alayhi wa sallam carried out continuously. It is a sin to leave out such
a sunnah without any valid excuse.
Sunni: Refers to those who belong to the
Ahlus Sunnah wal Jama'ah. This term is generally used as an opposite to Sh i
Surmah: Antimony. A black powdery substance
that is applied to the eyes. It is sunnah to apply surmah.
Talaq-e-kinayah: A divorce that is
issued in vague terms without clearly uttering the words of talaq.
Talaq-e-sarih: A divorce that
is issued in clear terms without leaving any vagueness or doubt.
Talaqul ba'in: A divorce, which
causes the annulment of the marriage. If a person wishes to retain his wife to
whom he had issued a talaqul ba'in, he will have to remarry her, i.e.
their nikah will have to be re-performed.
Talaqul mughallazah: A
divorce which not only causes the annulment of the marriage, but if the couple
wish to remarry, the woman will have to marry another person first, when he
divorces her or passes away, only then can she remarry her first husband.
Talaqur raj'ai : A revocable
For further details with regard to all the above
forms of talaq, refer to the relevant chapters.
Ulama: Plural of alim.
Ummah: Literally means "community or
nation". Here it refers to the Muslim community and nation.
Wajib: Literally means
"obligatory". In Islamic jurisprudence it refers to that act which has
not been established by an absolute proof. Leaving out a wajib without any valid
reason makes one a fasiq and entails punishment.
Wali: In the context of marriage or
divorce, it refers to the legal guardian of a minor.
Walimah: Refers to the feast that is
organized after a marriage. It usually takes place after the bride and bride
groom have spent a night together.
Wudu: Literally means "purity
or cleanliness". In Islamic terminology, it refers to the act of washing
oneself before offering salat.
Zihar: Likening one's wife to one's
mother. It is a form of divorce. For further details, refer to the chapter on zihar.