10 Tips on How to Be a Successful
by Muhammad AlShareef
1. Dress up for
your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us
men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband
wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband
to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu
alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning
home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the cutest
names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam
- had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your
wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names
that hurt their feelings.
3. Don't treat
her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives
until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day -
which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something
to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good
that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see
wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This
is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam
- used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives
- radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have
5. Smile at
your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling
is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.
Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember
also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam
- would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was
6. Thank her
for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for
example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the
home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only
acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more
salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!
7. Ask her to
write down the last ten things you did for her that made her
happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize
what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing
game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
8. Don't belittle
her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon
the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi
wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah
- radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had
put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and
brought her the camel.
9. Be humorous
and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal
Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu
'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something
10. Always remember
the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam:
"The best of you are those who treat
their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my
family." Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah -
azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala
knows best !!