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Etiquettes of Marriage

 
 

Participation of the Wealthy in the Feast with their Wealth

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh) It is commendable for the wealthy to help in the preparations for the wedding feast based on the hadith narrated by Anas (rad) about the Prophet’s (pbuh) marriage to Safiya (rada) : “Then, when we were on the road, Umm Sulaim (rada) prepared her (Safiya) for him (the Prophet and brought […]

 

The Prohibition of Spreading Bedroom Secrets

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh)   It is forbidden for either the husband or the wife to spread any of the secrets of their bedroom to anyone outside. The following two hadith are about this: First: “Verily among the worst people before Allaah on the Day of Judgement is a man who […]

 

What he should do the Morning After His Wedding Night

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh)   It is desireable for the husband to go to his relatives who came to visit him in his house, on the following morning, to give them greetings and pray for them. It is also desireable for them to do likewise for him, as in the following […]

 

What the two Spouses should Intend with their Marriage

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh)   Both spouses should enter into marriage with the following intentions: freeing themselves of unfulfilled sexual desires, and protecting themselves from falling into that which Allaah has forbidden (i.e. adultery and fornication). What’s more, a reward as the reward for sadaqa (voluntary giving of charity) is recorded […]

 

It is Preferable not to Practice Coitus Interruptus

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh)   Not practising coitus interruptus is preferable for a number of reasons: First: It is harmful for the woman, since it reduces her pleasure by cutting it short. If she agrees to it, it still contains the following negative points. Second: It negates part of the purpose of marriage […]

 

The Lawfulness of Coitus Interruptus

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh) (Withdrawl of the penis from the vagina at the time of ejaculation with the purpose of avoiding impregnation. This can be done only with the permission of one’s wife). It is allowed for a Muslim man to practise coitus interrupts with his wife. There are several hadith […]

 

What is Permissible when She is on her Periods

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh) It is allowed for him to enjoy pleasure with his wife in any way except for her private parts when she is on her period. There are several hadiths about this: First: “and do everything except intercourse itself.” [Muslim, Abu ‘Auwaana and Aboo Daawood] Second: On the […]

 

The Penitence of One who Has Sex during Menses

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh) Whoever is overcome by desire and has sexual intercourse with his wife when she is menstruating and before she becomes clean must give the value of one dinar’s weight of gold or about 4.25 grams (4.2315 to be more precise), or half that amount. This is based […]

 

The Prohibition of sex when She is Menstruating

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh) It is forbidden for a Muslim man to have sexual intercourse with his wife when she is menstruating. This is clear in the following verse of the Qur’an: “They ask thee concerning women’s courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women […]

 

Bathing before Sleeping is Preferable

(in the pure Tradition of the Prophet pbuh) Bathing however, is preferable to any of the above-mentioned possibilities as is clear in the hadith of `Abullaah ibn Qais (rad) who said: “I asked ‘Ai’ishah (rada) : “What did the Prophet (pbuh) do when in a state of janaba? Did he bathe before sleeping or sleep before bathing?” She […]