By Paul Williams
I came across this poster on social media.
“Man is the protector of the family. Woman is the heart of the family. Children are the future of the family”
and there’s a beautiful picture there of a traditional family with the man as protector of his wife and children. I think it’s produced by the Traditional Fellowship which is a traditional Christian organization promoting traditional values and apart from its intrinsic attractiveness I was struck also by the identical idea we see in Islamic values in the way Muslims understand the family,
Reading a verse from the Quran about that and this verse in chapter 4 verse 34 talks about husbands as providers and protectors, exactly the same thing it says :
men are the caretakers of women as men have been provisioned by god over women and tasked with supporting them financially and righteous women are devoutly obedient and when alone protective of what god has entrusted them with
so what’s fascinating here is that traditional British values are identical to Islamic values in this area. That’s remarkable. We’ve forgotten that perhaps in recent years in Britain and in the west generally where traditional values have basically been obliterated and now we have all sorts of other ideas but traditional British values and also France, Germany, Spain everywhere really were there in place until quite recently as late as the 1950s and 1960s – before hardcore feminism took over and these roles were blurred or obliterated really.
There’s a hadith actually which speaks powerfully to this, although in a wider context. This hadith on responsibility how each of you, each of us is a shepherd for his flock and the hadith reads :
The messenger of Allah peace and blessings be upon him said every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.
sahih bukhari 7138 , sahih muslim 1829
Amazing to see the similarities there between the traditional British understanding of family roles and Islamic teaching.
So just to stress this again I think if Muslims can make a positive contribution to British or European life to revivify and bring back healthy ways of relating between men and women and parents and children then this I think would be a key contribution that Muslims can make to the west to actually bring back traditional ways of doing things. The way men and women relate to each other particularly and this is a healthy normal natural god-given way of doing things and this can only bring back positive outcomes. Contrast that with the disorder, breakdown, depression, suicide, abortion, the list is endless, that the other experimentations that we are playing with today have brought about.
Anyway. I just wanted to share that until next time