by Abdul Jeleel Salaudeen
“For those who love each other nothing has proven as good as marriage.”
Hadith: Marriage as an institution is established to purify the society staring with the individual. Allah (SWT) has instilled in human being beings desire for the opposite gender. This desire instead of been satisfied in an unlawful manner which has destructive effects on the society and individual.
Marriage as a lawful channel for venting our desire is better alternative proffered by Islam; Ibn Umar reported that the Holy Prophet (SAW) said, “This world is a temporary enjoyment, and the best of its enjoyment is a righteous wife. Lovers instead of engaging in illicit sexual intercourse and unguided romance are best advised to legalise their relationship by solemnizing marriage.
Ibn Abbas(RA) reported that a man came to the Prophet and said, “We have an orphan girl under our custody. A poor man and a rich man have both courted her. She prefers the poor man, but we prefer the rich man. (What should we do?)” The Holy Prophet (SAW) responded, “For those who like each other, nothing has proven better for them than getting married.” (Ibn Majah, Hakim)
Also, marriage is an avenue for the couple to increase their righteous deeds because taking care of the family both mentally, financially and otherwise are considered acts of charity in Islam.
Besides, getting married is the way of the chosen Apostles and Prophets of Allah. Their practices are all good and worthy of emulation. The Holy Prophet (SAW) reported to have said; “Marriage is my sunnah, whosoever deviates from my sunnah (practice) is not from me”.
Sincere relationship between two individual Muslims is an everlasting relationship that transcends beyond this world. If a man is deceased and left a wife or wives behind; Allah (SWT) re-unites them in Al-Jannah (paradise) if the widow remained unmarried after the demise of her husband. However, if the woman decides to re-marry this is highly encouraging so as to keep her under the watch of a man and abstain from promiscuity. She would be the wife of the last husband in heaven much as they are both believers in Allah and His Prophet.
Apart from the afore-mentioned benefits to the Muslim individual, marriage also serves to preserve the chain of humankind on earth. One of the very important essences of marriage is procreation. Mankind continues to exits long as the bond of marriage is not allowed to cleave asunder. Allah (SWT) purposefully established the institution to keep human race in existence as long as He (SWT) desires. When it pleases Allah, He brings an end to everything at the expiration of their terms.
Socially, marriage also safeguards the society from physical diseases especially sexually-transmitted diseases (STDS) like syphilis, gonorrhea, HIV/AIDS to mention but few. Faithful relationship between Muslim couples serve as a divine approach to curbing the spread of these diseases that have become endemic in our world today. Islam as a panacea to the multifaceted problems plaguing the world enjoins the couple to exercise a high level of sincerity and trustworthiness.
Marriage also serves as a weapon to strengthen the Muslim community. When a nation multiplies through legitimate marriage, blessings from heaven descend on such community and nation because such a nation is relieved of sins and lack of Godliness. Adultery loosens and severe the ties of kinships leads to spread of diseases, causes perversion and consequently results in fear and distress.
Finally, marriage is an instrument used by Allah and His Prophet to achieve a stable and harmonious society in the past and that’s ever very useful to sanctify our community. Parents and guardian should heed to the call of Islam and handle the marriage of their wards with all the seriousness it deserves.
May Almighty Allah (SWT) ease our task and grant us righteous wives and children that serve as apples of our eyes both in this life and the hereafter (Amin).
source : tribune.com.ng